Category Archives: Pain

When the Voices are Taking You Down … (how to grab hold of your worth and rise)

She came to me crying, her sweatshirt tugged over face so I could only see the eyes. It took a while to get her to say out loud why she had rushed to the front. She sucked air, fearful of what would happen if truth came to light.  “I feel worthless,” she said. The words tore through […]


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When You Must Look at What You Don’t Want to See (meeting grace and truth in hard places)

Shutting our eyes is easier than opening them wide to the hard truth, because the hard truth casts light on what we don’t want to see. It’s a strange truth that people don’t want to see their own messes because if we look at them we think that will make us look messy. But a […]


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Why you Need Grace and Truth for Real Change to Happen

It can get messy trying to figure out how change really happens.  When we don’t deal with hurts, when we bury or mask truth, things only get worse. The other day when I was speaking in a public school, a girl asked me how to deal with sexual abuse. I knew it was an honest question […]


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U R Cared For (when you aren’t so sure…)

I always seem to be writing out of the wrestle. The moment I think I’m the only one feeling pinned to the mat breathless, along comes other girls who say they feel pinned too. We all wrestle. We all have days that go sorely wrong. We all hit that moment where we feel jammed and twisted and ask if we’ll […]


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U Need a Miracle (how to hope when what you want is huge)

So you need a miracle. I get that — I really, really get that. This is an exciting moment for both of us. We are the children of the God of the impossibles. I’ll never forget my pastor preaching on the 10 tests every minister must pass, and he was on the perseverance test. He translated […]


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