Category Archives: Self-Worth

when you don’t like what you see in the mirror (looking for what you cannot see)

“I don’t even want to look at myself,” she said, “I hate what I see.” I  I received letters from two ice skaters last week. The first one suddenly disappeared from her sorority house due to bulimia. Rachel was the tiniest girl in the house, but her voice sounded big when she wrote to me: “When I finally graduated […]


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Beautiful Lie #2: You are Not What You See in the Mirror (can someone help a girl out here?)

We’ve got girls wanting to retouch their thighs … and their eyes … and it’s all based on lies.  If there is one chapter I hope women read from my books, it is Beautiful Lies, The Second Lie:  You Are What You See in the Mirror. I won’t attempt to write it better than I did […]


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When the Voices are Taking You Down … (how to grab hold of your worth and rise)

She came to me crying, her sweatshirt tugged over face so I could only see the eyes. It took a while to get her to say out loud why she had rushed to the front. She sucked air, fearful of what would happen if truth came to light.  “I feel worthless,” she said. The words tore through […]


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U R a Girl who Struggles with her Body (and you are in my kitchen)

“I don’t have a bathing suit body,” the sweet one says as she takes off her shirt on fast forward and jumps in the pool.  At the table later, she explains she has lost seven pounds by cutting carbs. The girls are thirteen. Standing behind the kitchen sink, I lean in. We talk fruits, vegetables and […]


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