Beautiful Truth #1: You are God’s Beloved (how to hold onto your crown when it falls off)

There must be a formula for being a great child of God, for wearing the crown well, for reflecting His goodness near and far. I just don’t know it yet.

But this I do know: “How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we shall be called children of God, and that is who we are!” 1 John 3:1

From Genesis to Revelation, we see that all He really wants is a great relationship with His children. I guess I know how He feels, because that’s all I want too: for my children to know the heights and depths of love; what it really means to live like you are loved; and to know the Cowboy and me, to know that although life gets rocky at times, our love is lasting. I want them to know our love is fierce and at the same time gentle; that our door is always open. Inside these walls they will always find a warm bed, a hot meal, the Word of God, prayer, a hug, a cup of tea, and a laugh. Nothing could hurt us more than them turning away from a relationship with us. 

When I think about our daughter these days I can get teary-eyed. We have traversed some jagged valleys and hugged on the heights. When she hurts, I hurt. When she is glad, I am too. It sometimes feels like my heart beats inside her chest. I feel the same way about our sons. When they struggle, I feel the push and pull. When they are all glee, my heart leaps too.

Life beneath our feet may feel like sinking sand, but our position as sons and daughters of God is rock solid. All it takes is the desire to have a relationship with Him. The lynchpin is faith that He gave His Son as a gift to our hemorrhaging world. Why? So that we could know the heights, the depths, the width of His love.

So there really is no formula. It’s a step of faith; a crown as gift; an inheritance that lasts; and a relationship with the Father. Not a bad deal if you ask me.

But what about when we mess up?

Last I remember, when our daughter messed up (or was it I who messed up, I can’t remember now?), it took a tear, an apology, faith, love, and forgiveness — the kind the wipes your slate totally clean. The offense is forgotten. Nothing she does will ever change the fact that she is our daughter. Nothing will ever remove our boys from the position of “Sons.”

So whatever happens, as the Spirit breathes in Revelation 3:11, “hold onto what you have so no one will take your crown.” Don’t ever let go of your position as a child of the King. Lay your crown at His feet when you need to. Get humble, get real, be honest about your sin. And if the Son sets you free, you are free indeed.

Human beings cannot grant us entry into the family of God. The crown is a gift from the King himself.

Let’s wear ours well.

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About the Author: Jennifer

Jennifer Strickland is a wife, mom, TEDx speaker, and former professional model. She is the author of Girl Perfect, More Beautiful Than You Know, and Beautiful Lies, among other books and Bible studies that teach women their worth in God’s eyes. Since leaving the modeling industry, she founded, a non-profit ministry that provides resources to hurting women and girls. Her favorite moments are found working on the family ranch with her husband, who she calls “the Cowboy”; in her kitchen, concocting a new version of her famous spaghetti; or spending time with their three precious children.


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Chrissie Dunham, Prestonwood Baptist Church, Plano, TX

Jennifer is a captivating speaker. She keeps the listener hanging in wonder of what’s coming next! Her presentation is not only absorbing, it reveals the truth of God’s power to heal a wounded spirit.

Barbara Brown

Barbara Brown, Former Stonecroft Ministries Regional Representative, San Diego, CA

Jennifer has the ability to make you laugh, cry, and see yourself as one of God’s glorious creations — and that is just her warm up! Once Jennifer starts speaking, all you want to do is listen, learn, laugh, and love her. She takes you outside of yourself while helping you see inside of yourself, and does it in such a way that you feel safe, empowered, and capable to embrace all that the Lord is waiting to give you. She opens your eyes and your heart to hear from God in ways you never have. She connects you with others who share similar life experiences — and shines a bright light on the pathway to forgiveness, love, and blessings. Jennifer is also an amazing mother, compassionate, loving wife, and loyal, dedicated friend. Any opportunity women of any age have to hear from her is a gift and one that will produce fruit in their lives.

Lori Kennedy

Lori Kennedy, Outreach Event Coordinator, Riverview Evangelical Church, Bonsall, CA

I just picked up my girls from school today and they both talked all the way home about Jennifer’s presenation. It was a BIG HIT with Middle School and High School kids (both boys and girls). My high school daughter mentioned that she was glad that for once, a speaker focused on girl’s topics instead of sports or boy topics. She said that Jennifer engaged with the boys and made them answer questions too. My middle school daughter said that everyone in the middle school was paying attention too, and that all her friends were very tuned into what Jen was saying. Both girls said that they thought it was fine that the boys were with the girls during the presentation because the boys “needed to hear this stuff too.” 

Mother of two student attendees

Mother of two student attendees of Jennifer's U R MORE school program for boys and girls

If you think Jennifer gets the attention of adults, just see how the teenagers respond! My teenage grandchildren said they wanted to hear more from her and that her book was the only one they’ve ever really enjoyed reading! If teenagers are informed, inspired, and desire more, does anything else need to be said? Jennifer is an unusual voice of truth, integrity, and dignity. She needs to tell the world about her experiences and her victory. She encouraged me, a 70-year-old great grandmother. So, from teens to grans she has something everyone can benefit from.

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Dr. Thelma Wells, D.D. (Hon.), Speaker / Author / Founder of the Ready to Win Conferences

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