U R My Friend So I Promise …

U R My Friend, so I promise:

  • to love you when you are messy and life is messy and things are hard.
  • to believe in the best of you even when you’ve made mistakes.
  • to lean in and listen to your heart, and hold you when you need it.
  • to be a sounding board who doesn’t always echo back unless you want me to.
  • to make it all about you sometimes, to forget my needs and lift yours extra high.
  • to be honest with you, to tell you the truth in the right way at the right time, prayer be the guard over my lips.
  • to pick up the phone and call you when I need to hear your voice.
  • to pick up the phone when I know you need to hear mine.

Pioneer Girls, Rebecca Friedlander

You are my Friend, so I promise …

  • to trust you have my best interest at heart – to be vulnerable, knowing I may get hurt.
  • to respect your need for time or silence or space.
  • to wait when you need me to wait.
  • to stop talking when you say stop.
  • to give you room to breathe when you need it.
  • to figure out your buttons and not push them.
  • to respect you at all times (even when you are not respecting yourself).
  • to remember that you are but grass, here one day and gone tomorrow. Since tomorrow is promised to no one, I promise to make your day brighter because I’m in it.
  • to help you write your legacy, build your dreams, and become all that you can be.
  • to pray for you, even when you hurt me, or leave me wounded and longing for your presence.
  • to love you without condition, but to do what is best for me too, and if that means letting you go — know that I will miss you, that I am FOR you always, and I will still be your friend if you need one.
  • to help you find God’s best path for you, knowing that perfection isn’t the goal, but excellence is.
  • to help you grow and become the person God has destined you to be.
  • to be thankful for you, and to let you know the ways you’ve blessed my life and made it richer because you’ve been in it.


U R My Friend, so I promise.

We are doing a lot of talking about friendship around the Strickland home as of late, with our daughter being 13 and all. One of our goals this year is to be better friends. If that’s yours too, feel free to share this poem with someone you consider a friend. 

(the photograph of the dancing girls is by my friend, Rebecca Friedlander, of God’s Image Photography, who produced the documentary about my story.)


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About the Author: Jennifer

Jennifer Strickland is a wife, mom, TEDx speaker, and former professional model. She is the author of Girl Perfect, More Beautiful Than You Know, and Beautiful Lies, among other books and Bible studies that teach women their worth in God’s eyes. Since leaving the modeling industry, she founded, a non-profit ministry that provides resources to hurting women and girls. Her favorite moments are found working on the family ranch with her husband, who she calls “the Cowboy”; in her kitchen, concocting a new version of her famous spaghetti; or spending time with their three precious children.


The honesty that Jennifer uses to tell her story drew our young women in and captured their hearts. She provided them with practical tips that the women use daily to transform their lives. These decisions have caused them to do things differently. We loved her so much, we are having her back!

Chrissie Dunham

Chrissie Dunham, Prestonwood Baptist Church, Plano, TX

Jennifer is a captivating speaker. She keeps the listener hanging in wonder of what’s coming next! Her presentation is not only absorbing, it reveals the truth of God’s power to heal a wounded spirit.

Barbara Brown

Barbara Brown, Former Stonecroft Ministries Regional Representative, San Diego, CA

Jennifer has the ability to make you laugh, cry, and see yourself as one of God’s glorious creations — and that is just her warm up! Once Jennifer starts speaking, all you want to do is listen, learn, laugh, and love her. She takes you outside of yourself while helping you see inside of yourself, and does it in such a way that you feel safe, empowered, and capable to embrace all that the Lord is waiting to give you. She opens your eyes and your heart to hear from God in ways you never have. She connects you with others who share similar life experiences — and shines a bright light on the pathway to forgiveness, love, and blessings. Jennifer is also an amazing mother, compassionate, loving wife, and loyal, dedicated friend. Any opportunity women of any age have to hear from her is a gift and one that will produce fruit in their lives.

Lori Kennedy

Lori Kennedy, Outreach Event Coordinator, Riverview Evangelical Church, Bonsall, CA

I just picked up my girls from school today and they both talked all the way home about Jennifer’s presenation. It was a BIG HIT with Middle School and High School kids (both boys and girls). My high school daughter mentioned that she was glad that for once, a speaker focused on girl’s topics instead of sports or boy topics. She said that Jennifer engaged with the boys and made them answer questions too. My middle school daughter said that everyone in the middle school was paying attention too, and that all her friends were very tuned into what Jen was saying. Both girls said that they thought it was fine that the boys were with the girls during the presentation because the boys “needed to hear this stuff too.” 

Mother of two student attendees

Mother of two student attendees of Jennifer's U R MORE school program for boys and girls

If you think Jennifer gets the attention of adults, just see how the teenagers respond! My teenage grandchildren said they wanted to hear more from her and that her book was the only one they’ve ever really enjoyed reading! If teenagers are informed, inspired, and desire more, does anything else need to be said? Jennifer is an unusual voice of truth, integrity, and dignity. She needs to tell the world about her experiences and her victory. She encouraged me, a 70-year-old great grandmother. So, from teens to grans she has something everyone can benefit from.

Dr. Thelma Wells, D.D.

Dr. Thelma Wells, D.D. (Hon.), Speaker / Author / Founder of the Ready to Win Conferences

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